Aries and Cancer

The Aries individual may experience some trouble in trying to break through the protective shell of a Cancer native. Those governed by Cancer tend to hide their feelings inside and may project to the world at large a somewhat false image of being thicker-skinned than they truly are. Eventually, if the Aries individual does manage to penetrate the outer shell, then he or shee will find an extremely sensitive person with feelings that are easily damaged. Initially, Cancer will be attracted to Aries courtesy of this Sign’s strong personality, but within a short time, the Cancer native comes to realize just how different the value system is between them. In addition, the fiery love of Aries may well cause Cancer to wonder exactly how long real love can last with such intensity. Being prone to moodiness and easily hurt to the point where the Cancer subject may pout for days does not sit well with the direct and energetic character of Aries, who thrives on activity and new beginnings. The quiet outer facade of a Cancer native was most likely the chief attraction for Aries, since this individual is a go-getter and likes to have a tranquil place to recover in peace. Cancer is essentially a homebody who wants a large family and the Aries individual might not be ready for such a scenario for quite some time. Thus, the Cancer partner will begin to lose interest in the sexual act since secretly, Cancer does believe that sex is for procreation. This is an attitude that will rapidly cause the Aries native to seek elsewhere for a partner. Energetic, sociable and forward-looking, the Aries native will find it difficult to adapt to the desires of home-loving, protective and nurturing Cancer, who likes to be the leader and will spend more time sulking than talking unless he or she is allowed to make most of the decisions. Given the differences and clash in personalities here, this could be a shaky union at best.

An Aries/Cancer love affair is essentially a case of “opposites attract.” Aries individuals are rash and brash while Cancer individuals are sensitive and emotional. Aries can certainly be emotional, but in a fiery and impetuous way that can totally overwhelm the Cancer native. Although Cancer prefers to take time with relationships, he or she will probably find the Aries whirlwind approach to be exceedingly stimulating. In turn, Aries will undoubtedly regard the Cancer sensitivity to be appealing…it is a good balance for the typical Aries bluntness. However, trouble may arise if Cancer’s mood swings or the aggression of Aries becomes hurtful. Here, each party must take time to listen to the needs of the other and understand that they are coming from different directions to meet a common goal. Cancer is indicative of home while Aries is indicative of self. Still, one magnificent dynamic shared by this pair is that both will be fiercely protective of those they love. Cancer individuals use their shells to draw around themselves, family and mate when trouble threatens. Aries individuals use strength and bravery for the same purpose…rather like a knight in shining armor. Cancer will provide Aries with a happy domestic life and emotional security. However, there is sometimes a tendency for the Cancer partner to build an idealized image of the Aries mate or be overly-possessive and this can grate horribly on the independent Aries. Still, if the Aries native can reassure the Cancer subject that he or she is loved and cherished, this will help tremedously. In short, Aries truly needs to learn to listen to Cancer, who operates on an instinctive level. In return, the advice given by Cancer can aid the Aries partner to avoid silly mistakes caused by the typical lack of planning inherent in this Sign.

Aries is ruled by the planet Mars and Cancer is ruled by the Moon. The open and passionate nature of Aries will appeal to Cancer, who often internalizes emotions and feelings. Moreover, those governed by the Moon can possess an intense energy that Aries can help them to release. The Moon controls the tides of the Earth, quietly affecting all life…similarly Cancer works behind the scenes. In addition, Cancer tends to be sentimental and can teach Aries to slow down and appreciate life instead of constantly rushing to the next thing on the agenda. Aries is governed by the element of Fire while Cancer is governed by the element of Water. This can be a magnificent combination if the parties work together…using both action and emotion to get things accomplished. Cancer can help Aries to be more gentle and Aries can teach a Cancer native how to emerge from his or her shell. But, Cancer can be emotionally manipulative and on occasion, there may simply be too much Water which dampens the enthusiasm of Fire. Conversely, too much Fire can cause Water to evaporate, leaving the Cancer partner emotionally raw. Here, it will be necessary for both partners to talk openly and freely in order to ensure that their balance is maintained. Both Aries and Cancer are Cardinal in quality. Hence, both are initiators but will have to learn how to cooperate. Aries is a natural leader, always rushing forth to meet a challenge, but Cancer is also indirectly in charge courtesy of emotional control and the ability to weigh a situation. Cancer tend to compromise somewhat easily while Aries may be unwilling to yield and the Cancer partner may have to accept giving in. Perhaps the best aspect of an Aries/Cancer match comes with the realization that they are on the same team…the combination of Fire and Water does work well together. If Aries is out there getting attention and Cancer is quietly supporting the back end, then each partner’s ability to provide what the other lacks will make for an equal relationship.

In essence, this combination may experience difficult times in terms of longevity. By nature, Cancer is moody, sentimental and secretive, with a tendency to live in the past. These natives have a hard time forgetting serious conflicts that may happen in a relationship. Plus, the secretive nature has the potential of clashing with the openess associated with those governed by Aries. Here, the first year will be the hardest. If this pair can make it beyond that point, then there is a good chance the union will endure for quite some time.


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